Happy New Year!! We are now in the year 2021! It's that time to proclaim and announce your new year's resolution. What are "resolutions"? Simply, they are goals, but for some reason, some of us choose to make lofty goals and then we feel horrible by the time we get around to the second month of the year.
I think that maybe we decide in our minds that we have to nail this goal EXACTLY how we envisioned at the very start of the year. For example, if you have a goal of losing 10 pounds and you lose 7, then you failed. Or you might have the goal of reading your Bible every day, but you missed several weeks in the year, then you failed. As a writer, if I decide that I am going to complete and revise 3 chapters a month, but I only get to 2 chapters a month, have I failed?
Way back in November (it seems so long ago), I set a goal to produce an audiobook. I wanted to have it ready and displayed on Amazon by the new year. Well, that didn't happen. But I don't feel as if I failed because I learned something very valuable about setting goals. And that is, it doesn't matter how you start or when you finish, you win if you have made ANY kind of progress. Goals are meant to motivate! And it doesn't matter if the deadline has come and gone, you can still celebrate all you have done so far. Because if you don't celebrate every little win, you will feel like a failure and you will miss the joy of the journey.
At the beginning of my recording process, I felt like a failure almost every day. I beat myself up for not working hard enough or for making mistakes or not understanding the steps. And I kept watching the calendar as 2021, my deadline, closed in on me. I wasn't enjoying the journey because all I could see was how slow I was and how terrible my voice sounded and how many mistakes I kept making. I had set a standard (a goal so to speak) to "get it right"! And when I didn't, I "failed".
Until one day, after not eating and not sleeping, the Lord made me pause. He has so much more patience with me than I do with my own self!! The Spirit said to me, "Yvonne, why are you doing this? Is it to impress people or to help people?" I thought, "Lord, I want to help people." And He said, "Then, help people."
I rested on that day and just drew nearer to the Holy Spirit. He helped me to regain my focus to make the main thing, the main thing. I turned off the critical voice and turned on my encouragement voice. I began patting myself on the back and recognizing how far I had come! I thought to myself, "Yvonne, you've recorded 5 chapters!! You're almost halfway there!" Instead of operating within the busyness of perfectionism, I started operating in the power of God's grace. I worked on it through Thanksgiving and Christmas, and if I started obsessing over a section that wasn't "perfect", I began saying to myself, "That's good enough."
Let me explain how the sentence, "That's good enough" can help the perfectionists in the world. As perfectionists, we hear and see things about ourselves that we think are ugly, but those around us see as beautiful. In my case, this comes from comparing myself to other people. So when it comes to my goals or accomplishments, I sometimes see things as "right" or "wrong" based on what I have seen, heard, or read about others. It takes work for me to remember that we are human beings with different styles, tastes, varieties, and spectrums. So, what I may think is "wrong" (because I was comparing myself to how a professional narrator sounded) may not be wrong at all. It's just different! So I started using the phrase, "Yvonne, that's good enough" to keep myself from obsessing, and comparing myself to other people. I began to appreciate my uniqueness, celebrating my wins, and enjoying the journey!
So as you set goals for 2021, remember:
1. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small.
2. Perfectionism will keep you from seeing just how uniquely beautiful you really are.
3. That's good enough!
4. Give yourself some grace.
2 Corinthians 12:9
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
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The audiobook of Kill the Busy, Save the Bee is currently being reviewed and awaiting the approval of my distributor. I would appreciate your prayers that there would be no issues that stand in the way of its distribution. As a subscriber, you will be the first to know when it is available. I KNOW you are going to love it because I love it! I rarely listen to audiobooks, but I really enjoyed listening to mine when it was finally done :-)
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